Before we can discover what marriage is, we need to air our dirty laundry and come clean. Hence, this series of myths exploring some old beliefs about marriage. Maybe you’ve never had a relationship last for more than nine months. Maybe your parents divorced and you didn’t have any role models. Maybe you’ve just read some garbage about what it's supposed to be like and unbeknownst to you, you’ve set yourself up to fall on your face. But don’t fret. We’ll do it together. Let’s purge the pantry and clean house. Oh, and this is by no means exhaustive. Please feel free to add your own at the end. It’s fun. It’s liberating. It’s part of what will set you free to marry on your own damn terms.
Last week, I started the first article of a series called Marriage: Nobody Tells You Anything. For myself, marriage has become a central lens to life and I’m still amazed at how little I knew going in. This series of newsletters will explore the strange beliefs, surprising truths, and embarrassing strokes in marriage and love from my own experience and yours. I asked for your input. I wanted to know what it was like for you. And letters came in…
Island Time: a vacuum of time created by the presence of the ocean. A care-free laid back aura. A time away well spent that refreshes and revives.
Even if you’re not on an island right now, here are a few tips to create Island Time anywhere.
1) Leave your phone at home.
You may find that you’re more present when your face isn’t in a screen.
I'm excited to share that for the next few weeks, I’ll be devoting a series of articles on the theme of marriage, love, and relationship. What makes us commit? How can we be in a long-term relationship? Is there a secret to love?
It’s been just over two years since we exchanged our vows in front of loved ones outside on a Sunday afternoon in Marin County. Marriage, as I’ve learned, is a place of never-ending discovery of self, of other, and of union. It’s also a charnel ground—a place of daily death and rebirth. And that’s if you’re lucky. There’s something essential to relationship as a vehicle for transformation. Some couples are inspired by change; others may see change as conflict. But make no mistake...deep relationships offer an opportunity to awaken innate wisdom. In our most celebrated bonds, if we’re really present, change occurs. This is a very good thing.